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The lack of sleep probably isn't helping, but there's nothing wrong with seeing a therapist. I highly recommend it.
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New month... new number in the tens place on the scale. Weighed in at 239 this morning.
So far, down 46 pounds, only (only... lol) 29 pounds left to go to break into "normal" BMI range, which is ultimately where I'd like to be.
So far, down 46 pounds, only (only... lol) 29 pounds left to go to break into "normal" BMI range, which is ultimately where I'd like to be.
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Good work @count2infinity !
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Same. I was miserably tired all day yesterday. Couldnt' wait to get to bed. Finished up homework right before midnight, then laid in bed till 2am thinking about how to mount a second camera to a race car. Kill me.I think part of it or even most of it for me is just over thinking stuff...that's why I am addicted to distraction, particularly around sleep time...if I sit there in silence, I will start thinking about stuff...not bad stuff, just stuff I need to do, want to do, etc. and then my heart starts going and then I am even more awake, so then I consider doing some of the stuff since I am awake already...then debate whether that's a good idea or not haha...
(The answer is RAM glare shield mount compressed to the rear pocket window.)
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I go to a therapist once a week to talk through my stuff. Honestly, it's one of the best things I ever did for myself. I've only been going for just under two months, but there's a reason why it's so popular. The caveat is that you need to find a therapist that you like....not one that will tell you what you want to hear, but one that can relate. The first two ones I tried were too old, and I felt like I had little in common. The third (and the one I go to) is closer to my age, and I genuinely look forward to going now. It's really cathartic and I think it is making me a better person.I hear Zoloft is fine.
tl;nr, there's a stigma, and there shouldn't be. I'm not ashamed to say I go
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I don't think it's a stigma personally. I encouraged the wife to go and she has seen great returns. Glad you're getting similar results.
I just don't know that my problems are worthy of treatment. They're psychologically mechanical flaws, not borne of outside influence. In short I am not sure where the line is between real issues and just being a dodint.
The zoloft quip was tongue and cheek, a callback to the PDT. I was on it in my teens, it wasn't good.
I just don't know that my problems are worthy of treatment. They're psychologically mechanical flaws, not borne of outside influence. In short I am not sure where the line is between real issues and just being a dodint.
The zoloft quip was tongue and cheek, a callback to the PDT. I was on it in my teens, it wasn't good.
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Therapy is complicated. You realize fairly quickly that they are just following a play book for the most part. Actual insight can be rare. But getting your crap out of your brain and on the record is valuable. Transparency is important. I spent most of my time working the doctor over so she wouldn't actually challenge me. It's an easy game to win if you're a decent shmoozer.
I obviously don't endorse this attitude. It was a waste of my time, and looking back, not committing to the process hurt me in the long run. But therapy was overall helpful. It just had its limits.
Drugs are more complicated yet. Anti depressants trick you into thinking you're better, and when you have a moment realizing you aren't, it can be devastating. But like therapy itself, they're sometimes needed as at least a starting point.
I think my larger point is that this stuff isn't a magic bullet. But these are good starting points.
I obviously don't endorse this attitude. It was a waste of my time, and looking back, not committing to the process hurt me in the long run. But therapy was overall helpful. It just had its limits.
Drugs are more complicated yet. Anti depressants trick you into thinking you're better, and when you have a moment realizing you aren't, it can be devastating. But like therapy itself, they're sometimes needed as at least a starting point.
I think my larger point is that this stuff isn't a magic bullet. But these are good starting points.
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I don't think it's a stigma personally. I encouraged the wife to go and she has seen great returns. Glad you're getting similar results.
I just don't know that my problems are worthy of treatment. They're psychologically mechanical flaws, not borne of outside influence. In short I am not sure where the line is between real issues and just being a dodint.
The zoloft quip was tongue and cheek, a callback to the PDT. I was on it in my teens, it wasn't good.
Most of my issues are internally manifested. Obviously, there are some outside influences (and yes, unresolved childhood stuff), but I couldn't believe how cathartic it was to talk to someone else about it. A lot of the stuff I tell my therapist I could (would?) never tell anyone else.
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quoting my own postYeah, I don't want to talk about that.Shortly before this, I went from 185 to 217 without even noticing.
Between vendors bringing in breakfast every morning, not being able to run until recently, and really blowing off the diet since December, I put on all the weight that I lost when I first had my bronchitis plus an additional 5 lbs. With that treadmill now in my game room, I don't have any legit reason to blow off getting a few miles in.
knocked off almost 5 lbs in a little under two weeks by cutting out the booze and the flatbread pizza from the work cafe.
Possibly heading to Florida in late March/early April and wouldn't mind getting back to where i was last year, which means dropping about 1.5 lbs a week for the next 6-8 weeks.
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I've been considering seeing a cognitive therapist since the new year.
My biggest issue, to which shad alluded, is finding the right one (or for me, just finishing one to begin with). There's like 150 within 5 miles of Oakland. I don't know how to properly narrow it down.
Hopefully going to ask my concussion specialist to see if she has any recommendations
My biggest issue, to which shad alluded, is finding the right one (or for me, just finishing one to begin with). There's like 150 within 5 miles of Oakland. I don't know how to properly narrow it down.
Hopefully going to ask my concussion specialist to see if she has any recommendations
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So I've been taking a daily probiotic gummy for a few weeks now... not sure if I see any benefits. Nothing has really changed as far as digestive... things.... are concerned. For the cost of a month's supply, I'm not sure I'll continue with them after I finish this bottle.
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I don't really know the probiotic life, but I've heard from people that take them on more than one occasion that if you're buying non-refrigerated ones then you're just wasting your money...not sure if that's still the case or if it was even true at the time...but maybe something in gummy form isn't the optimal form for the adult human body...
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I bomb NJ as soon as I get up and good to go for the remainder. I’d say they work for me.
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Hmmm... possibly. My wife's doctor recommended she take some as being pregnant has left her susceptible to yeast infections. I'd imagine this is just another case of the doctor not really knowing much about digestive health because from everything I've read online, probiotics do nothing for that. But while reading, it seemed like they'd be worth a shot.
I do drink a fair bit of kombucha and eat yogurt on the regs, so maybe I'm just already saturated with the critters from the probiotic?
I do drink a fair bit of kombucha and eat yogurt on the regs, so maybe I'm just already saturated with the critters from the probiotic?
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As I am wont to do, I view this thread occasionally and catch up (lurk) on multiple topics. Reading the stuff about anxiety, therapy, Rx treatment, is a topic I have been pretty familiar with. Everyone is affected differently, but I can hear myself in what you guys wrote, especially the overthinking, sweating, needing to talk stuff out.
I've dealt with an anxiety disorder my entire life. I didn't acknowledge that fact or get treatment until I was well into my 30's. My treatment consisted of finding the right medicine to help me address the problem. There is a pattern that this is somehow connected to the males in my family. My brother, who I can tell has this issue far worse than me, is still living the life of ignoring the problem. His solution is to remove himself and retreat from life in general to his own little safe space. My son, 15, is starting to exhibit similar tendencies as me. He overthinks to the point of social paralysis, he avoids stuff that should be addressed, all kinds of **** that we make excuses for, saying "I'm just an introvert" or something to that effect. With that said, I have been very open with him about my struggles and he asked me if he could go talk to someone about it. The doc gave him a low dose SSRI prescription. 2 months in, he's doing great.
My point is, that in my experience, this problem doesn't go away on its own. Maybe the solution for you will be to get pharmaceutical help, maybe it's just talking it out. I thought for 30+ years that I could handle it. "I got this". Nope, I didn't.
I've dealt with an anxiety disorder my entire life. I didn't acknowledge that fact or get treatment until I was well into my 30's. My treatment consisted of finding the right medicine to help me address the problem. There is a pattern that this is somehow connected to the males in my family. My brother, who I can tell has this issue far worse than me, is still living the life of ignoring the problem. His solution is to remove himself and retreat from life in general to his own little safe space. My son, 15, is starting to exhibit similar tendencies as me. He overthinks to the point of social paralysis, he avoids stuff that should be addressed, all kinds of **** that we make excuses for, saying "I'm just an introvert" or something to that effect. With that said, I have been very open with him about my struggles and he asked me if he could go talk to someone about it. The doc gave him a low dose SSRI prescription. 2 months in, he's doing great.
My point is, that in my experience, this problem doesn't go away on its own. Maybe the solution for you will be to get pharmaceutical help, maybe it's just talking it out. I thought for 30+ years that I could handle it. "I got this". Nope, I didn't.
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Yeah. I'm on the edge of something I can no longer manage on my own I think. Thanks for the reinforcement, it does help. I don't particularly view asking for help as a stigma, I just don't care enough about myself to make the time to fix myself. Family members are actively dying in front of me, my problems can't be that bad, right? I keep telling myself that 'next year' will be a 'normal' year and I can work through things till then, but I'm running out of hope for that.
Not to just sit a whinge, but this is how the last 12 years of my life has gone in terms of major life stressors:
A lot of that stuff, particularly the schooling, is self-generated. But that somehow makes it worse, I think, because it gives me less standing to complain about it since it's a condition I created. 2018 will be the first year calendar year that I spend with my wife in eight years, which is nice. If you don't count the 6-10 weeks I spend in Minnesota for work/school.
I really do need some time with stability. I've considered taking a break from my law program but at the end of this semester I'll be more than half done so I kind of want to keep pushing. Always with the keeping pushing.
Not to just sit a whinge, but this is how the last 12 years of my life has gone in terms of major life stressors:
I really do need some time with stability. I've considered taking a break from my law program but at the end of this semester I'll be more than half done so I kind of want to keep pushing. Always with the keeping pushing.
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You need to take time for you, dodint. My life and situation is nowhere near that stressful, but you can bet your sweet buns that I will be parking ass for a while, once I finish the bedroom remodel.
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Good posts, these last few. Helpful and relatable.
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keeping pushing. Yep. I did that too. told myself to just keep busy. Married, had a couple kids, worked a 9-5 and earned my bachelors and then grad school in the evenings. problems still subsisted though. I'm not saying quit all the stuff that is keeping you busy. Really, getting your stuff in order mentally makes you better at all the things you want to do.
I'll be totally honest, the one area where I still struggle is communication. I think of things a billion times in my head, rehearse exactly what I want to say and then either never really say anything to the person that I need to speak with (cause for me, I've already had the conversation), or I get to the final point and miss conveying all the thought process I had behind it. It drives my wife insane.
I'll be totally honest, the one area where I still struggle is communication. I think of things a billion times in my head, rehearse exactly what I want to say and then either never really say anything to the person that I need to speak with (cause for me, I've already had the conversation), or I get to the final point and miss conveying all the thought process I had behind it. It drives my wife insane.
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Good luck with everything, life is stressful. Therapy isn’t for quitters, quitting is doing nothing to help yourself.
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I made it this long, but have finally gotten sick this year. God almighty.
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Wow.I think of things a billion times in my head, rehearse exactly what I want to say and then either never really say anything to the person that I need to speak with (cause for me, I've already had the conversation), or I get to the final point and miss conveying all the thought process I had behind it. It drives my wife insane.
I do this too. I mentioned it to my Mom in passing a few weeks ago and she was astonished. I've been rehearsing interactions in my head since probably middle school, it's second nature. I wonder how prevalent that is.
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I do this too, and it surprisingly easy to know exactly predict how interactions are going to go.Wow.I think of things a billion times in my head, rehearse exactly what I want to say and then either never really say anything to the person that I need to speak with (cause for me, I've already had the conversation), or I get to the final point and miss conveying all the thought process I had behind it. It drives my wife insane.
I do this too. I mentioned it to my Mom in passing a few weeks ago and she was astonished. I've been rehearsing interactions in my head since probably middle school, it's second nature. I wonder how prevalent that is.
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I'm right there behind you guys, but I feel as if it's conditioned by my job history.Wow.I think of things a billion times in my head, rehearse exactly what I want to say and then either never really say anything to the person that I need to speak with (cause for me, I've already had the conversation), or I get to the final point and miss conveying all the thought process I had behind it. It drives my wife insane.
I do this too. I mentioned it to my Mom in passing a few weeks ago and she was astonished. I've been rehearsing interactions in my head since probably middle school, it's second nature. I wonder how prevalent that is.
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I do it too.
And then I always think of the worst-case scenario of that conversation and decide not to go through with it.
And then I always think of the worst-case scenario of that conversation and decide not to go through with it.
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