RIP

DigitalGypsy66
Posts: 19673
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 7:33 pm
Location: Iodine State

RIP

Postby DigitalGypsy66 » Sat Apr 23, 2022 9:06 pm


dodint
Posts: 59154
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 1:39 pm
Location: Cheer up, bіtch!
Contact:

RIP

Postby dodint » Sat Apr 23, 2022 9:15 pm

Ain't nobody tryin' blow Orrin Hatch.

skullman80
Posts: 19200
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 5:02 pm
Location: Monroeville, PA

RIP

Postby skullman80 » Tue Apr 26, 2022 2:18 pm

So I was sitting here today thinking about my mom. I'm working through all of this grief the best way I know how. I have a great support system (especially my wife), but there are days where I feel I need more. Are there therapists for this stuff?

Like today I'm sitting here thinking that its my birthday next week, but that it's almost my mom's 4 days later...and her birthday falls on mothers day this year. It like teetered me over the edge today.

dodint
Posts: 59154
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 1:39 pm
Location: Cheer up, bіtch!
Contact:

RIP

Postby dodint » Tue Apr 26, 2022 2:20 pm

Yes, there are absolutely therapists to help with this. My wife got a lot of benefit from it when her parents passed away.

dodint
Posts: 59154
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 1:39 pm
Location: Cheer up, bіtch!
Contact:

RIP

Postby dodint » Tue Apr 26, 2022 2:24 pm

Also, it's not really something that will 'fix' your grief but it might help you understand it. @meow of all people turned me on to it and I'll be damned if the 'Grief as a Shrinking Ball in a Box" analogy hasn't helped me a ton. What you're feeling is okay and it will get better, even if it never goes away.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping-wi ... nking-ball

MalkinIsMyHomeboy
Posts: 29187
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 1:45 pm
Location: (=^_^=)

RIP

Postby MalkinIsMyHomeboy » Tue Apr 26, 2022 2:25 pm

So I was sitting here today thinking about my mom. I'm working through all of this grief the best way I know how. I have a great support system (especially my wife), but there are days where I feel I need more. Are there therapists for this stuff?

Like today I'm sitting here thinking that its my birthday next week, but that it's almost my mom's 4 days later...and her birthday falls on mothers day this year. It like teetered me over the edge today.
therapists can definitely help (though there are bad therapists too so you kind of have to get lucky)


the grieving process is healthy and natural. I haven't lost my mom so I can't relate to that feeling specifically, but honestly I don't think there's anything wrong with being overwhelmed with sadness because of your mom's bday falling on mother's day. you have a wound and it needs time to heal and that's completely fine. sadness is an important emotion

I think a therapist can help if you feel like your sadness is affecting your day to day or if you have unhealthy coping mechanisms (like drug abuse or something)

faftorial
Posts: 14812
Joined: Tue Nov 05, 2019 10:35 pm
Location: Lengeschder

RIP

Postby faftorial » Tue Apr 26, 2022 2:28 pm

I believe you're looking for a "grief counselor".

Edit: I see others beat me to it.

meow
Posts: 30448
Joined: Thu Mar 26, 2015 8:53 am
Location: I have four degrees and am a moron. Don’t let that fool you

RIP

Postby meow » Tue Apr 26, 2022 4:48 pm

Also, it's not really something that will 'fix' your grief but it might help you understand it. @meow of all people turned me on to it and I'll be damned if the 'Grief as a Shrinking Ball in a Box" analogy hasn't helped me a ton. What you're feeling is okay and it will get better, even if it never goes away.

https://psychcentral.com/blog/coping-wi ... nking-ball
You never paid my bill for this, by the way

Gabe
Posts: 1076
Joined: Fri Mar 27, 2015 3:09 pm
Location: St. Cloud (not the cold one)

RIP

Postby Gabe » Tue Apr 26, 2022 5:00 pm

if you work for a company, most likely they offer an EAP (Employee Assistance Program). There have been times where I took advantage of mine. Typically the way they work is that HR contracts with a provider to set up with counseling sessions in times of personal crisis. Usually 5 or so and they are paid for the program.
I was super hesitant to go to a therapist, but I found it really rewarding in the end, even if its just someone to talk to. Just helps to have a 3rd party perspective. take advantage if you able.

skullman80
Posts: 19200
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 5:02 pm
Location: Monroeville, PA

RIP

Postby skullman80 » Tue Apr 26, 2022 5:06 pm

Thank you everyone. I think my work does have an EAP program so maybe ill look into that to see if there is someone to talk to, or seek out a local grief counselor.

shafnutz05
Posts: 50377
Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2015 7:27 pm
Location: A moron or a fascist...but not both.

RIP

Postby shafnutz05 » Tue Apr 26, 2022 5:08 pm

Thank you everyone. I think my work does have an EAP program so maybe ill look into that to see if there is someone to talk to, or seek out a local grief counselor.
Yup, don't have to overthink it or worry about finding the "right" person. Sometimes just a willing ear helps. Good luck bud.

meow
Posts: 30448
Joined: Thu Mar 26, 2015 8:53 am
Location: I have four degrees and am a moron. Don’t let that fool you

RIP

Postby meow » Tue Apr 26, 2022 7:41 pm

I’ll agree to that. Lots of times just totally unloading on someone is all that is needed.

dodint
Posts: 59154
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 1:39 pm
Location: Cheer up, bіtch!
Contact:

RIP

Postby dodint » Tue Apr 26, 2022 8:43 pm

Lots of times just totally unloading on someone is all that is needed.
Image

meow
Posts: 30448
Joined: Thu Mar 26, 2015 8:53 am
Location: I have four degrees and am a moron. Don’t let that fool you

RIP

Postby meow » Tue Apr 26, 2022 8:50 pm

That helps too

MalkinIsMyHomeboy
Posts: 29187
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 1:45 pm
Location: (=^_^=)

RIP

Postby MalkinIsMyHomeboy » Tue Apr 26, 2022 9:21 pm

therapists can be hit or miss but I’m so happy about the one I’m seeing now. when you get a therapist that will listen to all your bullshit it’s amazing. she’s genuinely really smart too and is wonderfully helping me navigate my emotions

also she’s pretty cute. I may have picked to have a first appointment with her because of that

meow
Posts: 30448
Joined: Thu Mar 26, 2015 8:53 am
Location: I have four degrees and am a moron. Don’t let that fool you

RIP

Postby meow » Wed Apr 27, 2022 12:03 pm

MIMH has found yet another way to pay a woman to interact with him

faftorial
Posts: 14812
Joined: Tue Nov 05, 2019 10:35 pm
Location: Lengeschder

RIP

Postby faftorial » Wed Apr 27, 2022 2:30 pm


Ad@m
Posts: 4719
Joined: Mon Apr 24, 2017 4:21 pm

RIP

Postby Ad@m » Sat Apr 30, 2022 4:15 pm

RIP Naomi Judd

blackjack68
Posts: 14858
Joined: Thu Mar 26, 2015 7:09 pm
Location: Across the River from Filthydelphia.

RIP

Postby blackjack68 » Sat Apr 30, 2022 4:22 pm

Damn, she and Wynonna just performed together a couple weeks ago.

Blue Canary
Posts: 9311
Joined: Sat Oct 24, 2015 8:38 pm
Location: [Redacted]

RIP

Postby Blue Canary » Sat Apr 30, 2022 9:08 pm

So I was sitting here today thinking about my mom. I'm working through all of this grief the best way I know how. I have a great support system (especially my wife), but there are days where I feel I need more. Are there therapists for this stuff?

Like today I'm sitting here thinking that its my birthday next week, but that it's almost my mom's 4 days later...and her birthday falls on mothers day this year. It like teetered me over the edge today.
Rejoining FAFWorld and happened to see this. I'm so sorry, skull.

I extend my condolences and support to all here who are dealing with trying times and loss.

skullman80
Posts: 19200
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 5:02 pm
Location: Monroeville, PA

RIP

Postby skullman80 » Sat Apr 30, 2022 9:50 pm

So I was sitting here today thinking about my mom. I'm working through all of this grief the best way I know how. I have a great support system (especially my wife), but there are days where I feel I need more. Are there therapists for this stuff?

Like today I'm sitting here thinking that its my birthday next week, but that it's almost my mom's 4 days later...and her birthday falls on mothers day this year. It like teetered me over the edge today.
Rejoining FAFWorld and happened to see this. I'm so sorry, skull.

I extend my condolences and support to all here who are dealing with trying times and loss.
Welcome back and thank you!

Shyster
Posts: 13091
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 6:08 pm
Location: Nullius in verba

RIP

Postby Shyster » Sat Apr 30, 2022 11:25 pm

RIP to my uncle at age 87. He was a doctor, a husband, a father of three, a grandfather of four, and an all-around stand-up guy.

shafnutz05
Posts: 50377
Joined: Tue Mar 24, 2015 7:27 pm
Location: A moron or a fascist...but not both.

RIP

Postby shafnutz05 » Sun May 01, 2022 12:00 am

Sorry for your loss Shyster. I'll raise a toast to your uncle, sounded like a great man.

skullman80
Posts: 19200
Joined: Wed Mar 25, 2015 5:02 pm
Location: Monroeville, PA

RIP

Postby skullman80 » Sun May 01, 2022 6:04 am

RIP to my uncle at age 87. He was a doctor, a husband, a father of three, a grandfather of four, and an all-around stand-up guy.
So sorry for your loss.

Blue Canary
Posts: 9311
Joined: Sat Oct 24, 2015 8:38 pm
Location: [Redacted]

RIP

Postby Blue Canary » Sun May 01, 2022 9:44 pm

So I was sitting here today thinking about my mom. I'm working through all of this grief the best way I know how. I have a great support system (especially my wife), but there are days where I feel I need more. Are there therapists for this stuff?

Like today I'm sitting here thinking that its my birthday next week, but that it's almost my mom's 4 days later...and her birthday falls on mothers day this year. It like teetered me over the edge today.
Rejoining FAFWorld and happened to see this. I'm so sorry, skull.

I extend my condolences and support to all here who are dealing with trying times and loss.
Welcome back and thank you!
You’re welcome. And thank you in return; it’s nice to be back. :)

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 94 guests