My first pregnancy resulted in a pregnancy loss at 10 weeks. The worst part for me wasn't the procedure, it was the rounds of pills they gave me to try first. That was painful, I was miserably sick, and they didn't work (they had me try 3 times). The procedure was a relief tbh after that. If I miscarry again, I'm going right to the procedure.Yeah, and as if the miscarriage wasn't bad enough, the procedure they have to do afterwards is not enjoyable. My wife was in a bad place for a little while there. Definitely made me both appreciate my daughter that much more, and have more empathy for anyone who went through the same thing.
The process did make me want to change my obgyn. She is amazing, but her nurse practitioner was the one who told me I had a missed miscarriage. She just came into the room, said I miscarried, told me I had 3 options for next steps and left the room. It was like 2 min and I got absolutely no advice or heads-up about what the process would be like.
The thing that helped me was that it was likely chromosome issues, and that would have been a very hard life for the child. It still hits sometimes, usually each time I discover I am not pregnant again. I got pregnant so quick our first time trying (first month) now I have very unrealistic expectations.