5AF Parenting Thread

Postby **shafnutz05** » Tue Jan 07, 2020 6:04 pm

I feel bad for her. She looks like she got into multiple fights, and I'm sure one of the bruises is going to be black and blue by tomorrow. She's a trooper, though.

Oof...sorry man. Tough to see your little girl get hurt.

Postby **mac5155** » Wed Jan 15, 2020 2:50 pm

at like 1am last night lil mac woke up and was incessantly screaming for a solid 15 minutes without being able to be calmed down. I don't know if the lil dude had a nightmare or what. But literally the only thing I could do to get him calmed down was turn sesame street on. Binky didnt work, milk didnt work, rocking/hug, nothing.

Postby **Beveridge** » Wed Jan 15, 2020 3:31 pm

We've gone through this several times over the past month with our guy. Couple of times we noticed he doesn't open his eyes so thinking night terrors or something.

Postby **count2infinity** » Wed Jan 15, 2020 3:55 pm

We've had that more than one occasion. Like Beveridge said, our little one doesn't/won't open her eyes during them. Then once she does, she realizes we're with her and she's fine. Scary stuff.

Postby **mac5155** » Wed Jan 15, 2020 4:03 pm

Pretty sure he did have his eyes open, but, maybe he wasn't actually seeing us

Postby **NTP66** » Wed Jan 15, 2020 4:10 pm

Pretty sure he did have his eyes open, but, maybe he wasn't actually seeing us

Perhaps next time let your wife breastfeed him instead?

Postby **mac5155** » Wed Jan 15, 2020 9:29 pm

Target has several stacking deals on diapers. Got 3 bulk packs, some butt paste and Tylenol for a little over a hundo. And a gift card too

10% off diapers
5% off creams
10% off a drive up order (ymmv)
$30gc with $100 baby spend

Postby **NTP66** » Thu Jan 16, 2020 5:58 am

You use Target's app to scan everything there in Circle, correct? FWIW, they've had baby discounts as an added coupon (in the Wallet section) for months now.

Postby **mac5155** » Thu Jan 16, 2020 2:11 pm

You use Target's app to scan everything there in Circle, correct? FWIW, they've had baby discounts as an added coupon (in the Wallet section) for months now.

I did drive up, so used the app to order.

I hadn't noticed because I buy 3-4 bulk size boxes of diapers at a time and hadnt needed any. A bulk box will last about 4 weeks. I usually only buy when they have the bonus gift card promo.

Postby **mac5155** » Thu Jan 16, 2020 2:13 pm

We're almost into size 5 though, which sucks with the amount you get

Postby **grunthy** » Thu Jan 16, 2020 2:32 pm

We're almost into size 5 though, which sucks with the amount you get

But you don’t have to change them every two hours like a infant. We only go through 4 to 5 a day now.

Postby **mac5155** » Thu Jan 16, 2020 3:27 pm

Good point. We probably use 6 a day, I estimate.

Postby **NTP66** » Sat Jan 18, 2020 8:40 am

My daughter informed me that she is not allowed to attend the next “special” event that the school has for good students every few months because she told another student that her handshake was lame. I can’t imagine that this is the only reason why, so I’m waiting for the teacher to call me back to discuss.

In the meantime, she tells me that she is getting into trouble with one particular kid who is apparently incredibly sensitive to anything and everything. For example, she told on my daughter after my daughter moved her water bottle to clean the desk. Also told on her because my daughter said she didn’t want to talk to anyone (she was in a grumpy move). I’m honestly sick and tired of this bullshit. You can’t coddle kids so much that they cry about every **** thing and expect them to handle what life throws at them.

/rant

Postby **MWB** » Sat Jan 18, 2020 9:43 am

What does she mean by “getting into trouble.” I only ask because sometimes kids say they’re in trouble when a teacher just talks to them about something.

Postby **NTP66** » Sat Jan 18, 2020 10:21 am

What does she mean by “getting into trouble.” I only ask because sometimes kids say they’re in trouble when a teacher just talks to them about something.

She means that when this happens, the other kid tells the teacher (“she moved my water bottle”), and the teacher will ask my daughter not to touch her things, etc. My daughter thinks she’s in trouble, which is why I want to talk to the teacher to clarify what’s happening. I don’t want my daughter thinking she’s in trouble for stuff like this, and if she IS “in trouble” for something like this, then I now have a problem with the teacher.

Postby **mac5155** » Mon Jan 20, 2020 11:41 am

Being that my wife is almost 30, and we have a mortgage, I've gotten her life insurance (I already had some).

My agent tried to sell me on a whole life quote for lil mac. I was lukewarm to the idea but had her draw me up a quote regardless. Worst I can say is no.

Then I started looking online and read that the consensus is that life insurance for kids isn't really a sound investment/worthwhile. What say you FAF?

Postby **Beveridge** » Mon Jan 20, 2020 12:16 pm

Not a sound investment.

If they were to die, your household isn't trying to replace their income of 0. Yeah, you would have funeral/burial costs, but that's it. Life insurance is only to protect the current money coming in to the house.

The only life insurance worth it's value is:
1. Term insurance at 10x to 12x annual salary for about 20-30 years. Less if kids are older.
2. Term insurance for people who add $$ to the household or a SAHP.

Postby **mac5155** » Mon Jan 20, 2020 12:40 pm

It was sold to me as a nest egg for college, but I'd rather put the money into his 529 plan.

Postby **Morkle** » Mon Jan 20, 2020 12:55 pm

Yea our guy tried the same. We just decided to put it into the 529, and if I die, a lot of the money goes to him anyways.

Postby **grunthy** » Wed Jan 22, 2020 1:02 pm

My kid has a confirmed case of the flu. I’ve about **** ing had it with this daycare of his. They said there were no known confirmed cases in the toddler area, only infants. Well the only place he went the last week and this week is his daycare. So either some **** ing dadhole in his room brought their kid in with a **** ing fever and flu, or they cross contaminated. My wife ripped them a new one.

Postby **grunthy** » Wed Jan 22, 2020 1:06 pm

Since **** ing August he has been sick 10 times. We’ve traveled a lot on airplanes throughout his life, and gone to Disney a bunch, and other public places, and his first sickness wasn’t until daycare. So he doesn’t have an immune disorder. This damn daycare is just a **** cesspool of disease apparently. Our pediatrician is recommending we move. We pay 1100 dollars a month for this place.

Postby **mac5155** » Wed Jan 22, 2020 1:22 pm

I used to get mad about that too, then I realized it just kind of happens. $1100 a month is certainly steep and some daycares are better than others and 10 times seems to be excessive for sure. But kids have germs. lil mac got sick probably 5-8 times in his first year. Then he got tubes and has been sick once since in 6 months.

Postby **grunthy** » Wed Jan 22, 2020 1:35 pm

I used to get mad about that too, then I realized it just kind of happens. $1100 a month is certainly steep and some daycares are better than others and 10 times seems to be excessive for sure. But kids have germs. lil mac got sick probably 5-8 times in his first year. Then he got tubes and has been sick once since in 6 months.

It’s even more excessive because he didn’t go to his daycare all December and most of October. So yes 10 times isn’t excessive in a year, but 10 times is excessive when he has only actually gone to his daycare for a grand total of 16 weeks over 5-6 months.

And our pediatrician is telling us to move because they believe they aren’t properly cleaning or responding to illness. So I don’t think it’s normal if our pediatrician is telling us otherwise.

Postby **mac5155** » Wed Jan 22, 2020 2:43 pm

I am curious everyone's thoughts on this matter. Luckily I have like 4 years to make the call, but someone asked me the other day whether or not I'll enroll my kid in kindergarten right away. The cutoff in our district is also his birthday - 9/1.

Guess it's still entirely way too early to tell which way to go. But it's almost a decision of 'is he the oldest or the youngest' in class.

Postby **NTP66** » Wed Jan 22, 2020 3:01 pm

I am curious everyone's thoughts on this matter. Luckily I have like 4 years to make the call, but someone asked me the other day whether or not I'll enroll my kid in kindergarten right away. The cutoff in our district is also his birthday - 9/1.

Guess it's still entirely way too early to tell which way to go. But it's almost a decision of 'is he the oldest or the youngest' in class.

I’m glad that our daughter started elementary school when she did. If she were right at the cutoff, I’d probably have gone the same route and enrolled her the next year.