We're struggling with that this year, made even more difficult as we make it an emphasis to incorporate more of my wife's culture and holiday traditions into our lives while my parents have oddly starting treating every holiday like a random Tuesday in April despite finally having grandkids to dote on. We host, I cook, and we're the ones with little kids, yet they're intent on defining who is "gift eligible", what the meal should be, and when things take place since we live all of an hour away and they need to get home with the dogs. Couple that with my wife's general postpartum state of longing for more time with her family, culture, and customs, I'll be taking the kids to my parents on the 26th for a quick visit while hopefully the ensuing 12 months is enough time for them to get the stick out of their asses and un-bah humbug themselves.I have a hard time struggling with the concept that grandparents think things can continue to being the same when children are in the picture. When it's two adults kidless, sure, I see reasoning. As soon as the baby comes into the picture - ain't no way.
This gets to the point where "Parenting Thread" is no longer the correct topic, but over the past year I've grown tired of being made to feel like my focus in life needs to be what's best for my family AND what's best for my parents, instead of prioritizing our nuclear family.
