I need a ruling on this

[MrKennethTKangaroo]

i always thought it was a pretty amateur hour move to charge rent to a kid

[willeyeam]

my grandparents charged my dad rent and kept it in a separate account and gave it back to him when he moved out

[DrunkenCoatsey]

Thank You cards: For when an in-person "thank you" just isn't enough.

The card industry has to be the most non-value-add business in existence.

[Troy Loney]

Thank You cards: For when an in-person "thank you" just isn't enough.

The card industry has to be the most non-value-add business in existence.

Looks like we've got the worst take on the question.

[MrKennethTKangaroo]

which is impressive, considering that ntp has yet to chime in on the matter of the thank you cards

[Lemon Berry Lobster]

Thank You cards: For when an in-person "thank you" just isn't enough.

The card industry has to be the most non-value-add business in existence.

Looks like we've got the worst take on the question.

Hold on, dodint and nobody still have to weigh in.

[mikey]

re: rent for an 18 year old with parents that are wealthy -- bad. Followed by "up yours"...


Though, there is an opportunity for nuance of the situation...but, that wasn't put forth, so I'm assuming everything falls within the realm of "normal"...

[AuthorTony]

My best friend and neighbor from childhood got married last year. My parents didn't go to the wedding but gave a nice gift. They never received a thank you card. My mom's still pissed.

[Factorial]

my grandparents charged my dad rent and kept it in a separate account and gave it back to him when he moved out

I still woundn't do that but that makes some sense.

[blackjack68]

Charging your 18 year-old rent to continue living in your house (like my ex and her husband are doing to my daughter).

Does she have a job or is she in school?

Job = Rent (even if just nominal)

School = No Rent

[Beveridge]

Tell her uncle to pay for it.

[Factorial]

Charging your 18 year-old rent to continue living in your house (like my ex and her husband are doing to my daughter).

Does she have a job or is she in school?

Job = Rent (even if just nominal)

School = No Rent

That's essential it but the story goes much deeper and I don't want to go into it.

[blackjack68]

Hmmm... the plot thickens.

[tifosi77]

Charging your 18 year-old rent to continue living in your house (like my ex and her husband are doing to my daughter).

Does she have a job or is she in school?

Job = Rent (even if just nominal)

School = No Rent

That's how it was for me, and I thought it was entirely fair. I also paid a share of the bills/utilities, which, again, fair, imo.

[dodint]

I'm in the pro thank you card camp if I have to rule on my own question.

[shoeshine boy]

re Thank You cards: I was raised that certain situations call for a TY card. true story: 11 years ago I went on a job interview. I didn't get the job but after my interview I sent a TY card to the man who interviewed me thanking him for his time and for considering me for the job. 2 weeks later I got a call from him saying that the person they hired didn't take the job and it was mine if I was still interested. 11 years later I'm still here and still convinced that I was offered the job because I sent that TY card.

re charging an 18 year old rent: if she's out of school, absolutely BUT if she's going to be charged rent than there shouldn't be any chores required and no curfew. I'm quite sure that this situation may come up with my niece next year. she turned 18 in September (Senior in HS) and has barely had a job because she'd rather sit around all day playing PS4.

[willeyeam]

i think it's poor taste to charge them rent. if you could afford to have them there for 18+ years, help your child start out in the real world on the right foot and save some money

[shafnutz05]

Thank you cards are an obvious yes...that's just laziness for those that don't.

Regarding rent...while I think there are obvious situations where that is acceptable (your college grad working a grown up job and living at home to save for a house the first couple of years), charging an 18 year old rent is dumb.

[shmenguin]

Re-opening the thank you card discussion.

If the gift is a gift, then treat it like a god damn gift. Don't get a card in the mail expressing an obvious, obligatory sentiment? If this pisses you off, me thinks you have a void that needs filled. Unless it's something that you spent a shitload of thoughtful time on, get over it. Buying a bottle warmer or diaper bag for someone doesn't meet that criteria.

In other words, if my wife dies before I do while my kids are still young or loses the use of her writing hand, I have a list of nonsense to attend to.

[dodint]

There it is.

[dodint]

You really can always find someone to disagree with on the internet.

[Troy Loney]

Re-opening the thank you card discussion.

If the gift is a gift, then treat it like a god damn gift. Don't get a card in the mail expressing an obvious, obligatory sentiment? If this pisses you off, me thinks you have a void that needs filled. Unless it's something that you spent a shitload of thoughtful time on, get over it. Buying a bottle warmer or diaper bag for someone doesn't meet that criteria.

In other words, if my wife dies before I do while my kids are still young or loses the use of her writing hand, I have a list of nonsense to attend to.

If you go through the motions of throwing a baby shower and soliciting gifts from friends and family, then you have to go through the motions of expressing gratitude. Your presumption seems to imply that all are just waiting with baited breath to buy you baby junk.

[willeyeam]

i think all the takes are now in

[slappybrown]

Thank you cards are bad and my most sexist take is a refusal to participate in them leaving it to my wife each time. Hopefully millennials kill thank you cards next.

[shmenguin]

Thank you cards are bad and my most sexist take is a refusal to participate in them leaving it to my wife each time. Hopefully millennials kill thank you cards next.

F*** yes.

The rest of you, slappy and I will meet you in the 21st century when you get here.

And Troy - baby showers are full of aunts, girlfriends and sisters who are absolutely frothing at the mouth to buy diaper bags and bottle warmers.